From the moment you become a parent, it feels like everyone has an opinion. Strangers, family members, and even social media seem to have endless advice on how to do it “right.” Whether it’s about how you feed your baby, how you handle tantrums, or even what time your toddler should go to bed, the pressure to fit into society’s idea of “perfect parenting” can feel overwhelming.

But here’s the thing I’ve learned: parenting isn’t about doing it “their” way—it’s about doing it your way, each child is different.

Trust Yourself—You Know Your Child Best

No one knows your child like you do. You know their giggles, their moods, their tiny quirks that make them who they are. Sure, advice can be helpful, but at the end of the day, you’re the expert on your child.

I can’t count how many times I’ve second-guessed myself after reading parenting advice that didn’t sit right with me. But you know what? Some of the most rewarding moments as a parent have come from trusting my instincts, even if it went against the grain. It’s not about following the crowd—it’s about following what feels right for your family.

The Perfect Parent Doesn’t Exist

We’ve all seen the Instagram-perfect mom who seems to have it all together: a spotless house, perfectly packed lunches, and kids who never throw tantrums. It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap and feel like we’re falling short.

But here’s the truth: none of us have it all figured out. Behind those curated photos are the same messes, meltdowns, and tough moments we all face. Trying to live up to that impossible standard will only leave you exhausted and disconnected from the joy of parenting.

I’ve had days where my toddler refuses to eat anything but crackers and corn dogs, the laundry is piling up, and I feel like I’m failing. But then, in the middle of all that chaos, he’ll crawl into my lap for a cuddle or burst into laughter over something silly—and I’m reminded that this is what matters.

Finding Your Own Rhythm

Parenting authentically means finding what works for you and your child, even if it doesn’t look like what everyone else is doing. Maybe your family thrives on routines, or maybe you embrace the chaos of going with the flow. Maybe screen time saves your sanity some days, and that’s okay too.

For me, it’s been about letting go of the pressure to do it all perfectly. Some days, we make it to the park and have a blast. Other days, we stay in pajamas, play with blocks, and watch Bluey. Both kinds of days are valid because they’re filled with love and connection.

Dealing with Judgment 

There was a time when my fiancé and I were judged by a family member because our son still drank from a bottle and used a pacifier. Honestly, it wasn’t the comments about the bottle or pacifier that hurt the most—it was the underlying tone of parent shaming. Hearing that kind of judgment, especially from someone in our own family, stung deeply. It wasn’t just about our parenting choices; it felt like they were questioning our ability to do what’s best for our child, and that’s what made it hard to shake off.

One of the hardest parts of parenting your way is dealing with judgment—whether it’s from strangers at the grocery store, family or that voice in your head. People will always have opinions, but their judgment doesn’t define you or your worth as a parent.

I’ve learned to tune out those critical voices and focus on what works for my child and our family. It’s not always easy, but the more I lean into my own parenting style, the less I care about what others think.

Teaching Your Child to Be Themselves

When you parent authentically, you’re not just making life easier for yourself—you’re teaching your child an important lesson: it’s okay to be who you are. They’ll grow up knowing they don’t have to fit into anyone else’s mold to be loved and accepted.

I’ve seen this with my toddler. When I stop worrying about doing things “right” and just focus on being present, our connection deepens. Whether we’re building block towers, going exploring through our complex or simply snuggling on the couch, those moments remind me that what my child needs most is me.

You Are Enough 

Parenting is messy, unpredictable, and full of trial and error. You’ll have days when you feel like you’ve nailed it and others when you feel like you’ve fallen short. But here’s the truth: you are enough.

Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent. They need a loving, present parent who shows up, mess and all.

So let go of the pressure to meet society’s impossible standards. Lean into what feels right for you and your family. Embrace the little moments, the imperfection, and the joy of raising your child your way.

My family♥️

Have you ever done something as a parent that just felt right, even if it went against what everyone else says you ‘should’ do? I’d love to hear your story. Share in the comments so we can remind each other that there’s no one right way—just what’s right for you and your family.